Finding a Marriage Mentor
Welcome to our Marriage Mentors page, where you can find a Marriage Mentor or learn to become a Marriage Mentor.
Here is our definition of Marriage Mentoring:
A relatively happy, more experienced couple purposefully investing in another
couple to effectively navigate a journey that they have already taken.
Why Marriage Mentoring?
Our Homebuilders Ministry at Living Hope seeks to strengthen marriages and encourage godly parenting, and one of the best ways is by finding community with other couples who are a few steps ahead. We want to give every couple (engaged to married for many decades) every possible chance to build a marriage that would go the distance.
“We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you
not only the gospel of God but our lives as well.”
I Thessalonians 2:8 (NIV)
What We Know for sure:
- Marriage Mentoring works. It’s tried and tested, proven and effective.
- It’s fun. The couples doing the mentoring get as much out of it as those being mentored.
- People want a Marriage Mentor. Sixty-two percent of churchgoers say they’d like to find a mentor couple, and that goes up to 92 percent when they are struggling.
- It’s biblical. Marriage Mentoring is a clear example of what Paul called “empowering the laity” (Ephesians 4:12).
- It’s doable. You don’t have to be a counselor, a marriage expert or have the perfect marriage to be a great mentor.
How Marriage Mentors help:
There are three paths where mentors can help. Marriage preparation, marital distress, or
moving couples from good to great. We call this the Marriage Mentoring Triad.
There are three paths:
· Prepare: For engaged or young married to build a solid foundation.
· Repair: Encourage a couple going through a time of distress in their
marriage or family life. Areas like being in a blended family, getting out of
debt, healing from infidelity, or some other area that needs help.
· Maximize: Help deepen and enrich a stable marriage. Looking for ways
to make a good marriage and make it great.
Interested in becoming a Marriage Mentor?
Steps to become a Marriage Mentor:
a. Pray with your spouse to make you are both open to being Marriage Mentors.
b. Fill out the Marriage Mentor Application
c. Attend Marriage Mentor Training
d. Interview to confirm the level of commitment and answer any of your questions.
Why are we starting a Marriage Mentor Initiative?
We are being proactive to the need, but we have also acted too slowly. These past years
during the pandemic, marriage has taken a hit. Many churches are seeing more splits and divorces in the last 3 years than in the life of their church.
Who are the Mentors?
The mentors are couples from Living Hope who have completed the Marriage Mentor training and who want to invest in the vibrant health of other marriages.
What are the specifics steps toward Marriage Mentoring?
1) Fill out the Application.
2) Meeting with Homebuilder Pastor to determine your next step toward marriage
mentoring. If your unique situation is not a good fit for mentoring, we’ll gladly assist you
in finding another path forward in your marriage.
3) Setup meeting with Marriage Mentors
Are Marriage Mentors needed?
Yes, maybe you have had conversations of couples wanting to hang out and learn from other couples. About 84% of couples would say having a marriage mentor would be beneficial, but only 22% say they have one.
How long does it take?
It all depends on the path and goals, but couples usually meet over two to three months.
Couples normally spend about 1 ½ hours together once a week (sometimes every other week). There can be assignments given by the mentor couple.
Is marriage mentoring only for marriages in crisis or experiencing severe difficulties?
No, Marriage Mentors are needed at all seasons and stages in our married life.
· Prepare: an engaged or young married to build a solid foundation.
· Repair: Encourage a couple going through a time of distress in their marriage or family
· Maximize: Help deepen and enrich a stable marriage.
Why not just seek a professional counselor?
We should always recommend a professional when necessary, but it's not always needed. Many of the issues we have in our married life are a normal part of being in a relationship with another person.
· A mentor couple can come alongside another couple and normalize a situation that they
may see as only unique to themselves.
· Marriage Mentors are not professionally trained counselors or psychologists but are
directed and trained to help and refer a couple to our pastors and professionals when
· There is a lower barrier to turning to someone you know socially rather than a